Maximize Your Season

By: Kaydene Green

“Every season is one of becoming, but not always one of blooming. Be gracious with your ever-evolving self.” — B. Oakman

Summer officially began this past Tuesday, June 21, 2022. If you ask me, summer started at least three months ago, but I live in Florida, so that should explain that. Weather-wise, it is my least favorite time of year. Why? For obvious reasons. Have you stepped outside lately?

The sun beats down during the day like an undefeated champion in a boxing ring. The humidity at night; ungodly. My curls absolutely hate this weather. Not to mention me trying to wear a moisturizer that has some amount of sunscreen in it. A sight to see.

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The hellish season of summer is marked by the highest temperatures of the year which is the perfect environment for thunderstorms to form that brings along with them doses and doses of fatal lightning strikes. This alone inflates my anxiety whenever I’m outside trying to make it safely to my car under an overcast sky.

With the heat being the highest during this time of year, so is the misery of any amounts of time spent anywhere with no air-conditioning. Wouldn’t it be immensely convenient to circumvent the extreme heat of the summer by having a portable ac unit to walk around with at all times? Or to be able to have a remote control to turn down the temperature of the sun?

Let’s just say, I complain a lot during the summer. And for all of you with leather seats, I pray away those third degree burns awaiting you after you sit in that car that has sat in the sun for ANY period of time.

Though this blog post is not about how to survive the summer, I’d like to provide some helpful tips when outside temperatures are exaggerated enough to cause heat advisories: stay cool, stay hydrated, and stay informed.

So what makes a season, a season?

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National geographic defines a season as “a period of the year that is distinguished by special climate conditions. The four seasons—spring, summer, fall, and winter—follow one another regularly. Each has its own light, temperature, and weather patterns that repeat yearly.”

Why do we need seasons?

Seasons have an enormous influence on vegetation and plant growth. Winter typically has cold weather, little daylight, and limited plant growth. In spring, plants sprout, tree leaves unfurl, and flowers blossom. Summer is the warmest time of the year and has the most daylight, so plants grow quickly. In autumn, temperatures drop, and many trees lose their leaves.”

So all seasons serve their own purpose under their unique conditions, but let’s backtrack for a second; “seasons are distinguished by special climate conditions“. “Climate features also include windiness, humidity, cloud cover, atmospheric pressure, and fogginess.” In the summer, plants grow quickly because of the season’s warmth and abundance of sunlight.

How ironic? The season I hate the most has the best conditions for what I understood to be optimal plant growth.

Is it safe to say that we can draw from the seasons of the year a few life lessons on how to perceive, with intention, the very seasons of our own life?

Biblical Reference

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The book of Ecclesiastes, chapter 3, (excerpt below), presents the theme “a time for everything“. The literal and figurative representations the text provides is a list of seasons we; as human beings; may face at some point on our journey in this thing called life:

A Time for Everything

1 For everything there is a season,

a time for every activity under heaven.

2 A time to be born and a time to die.

A time to plant and a time to harvest.

3 A time to kill and a time to heal.

A time to tear down and a time to build up.

4 A time to cry and a time to laugh.

A time to grieve and a time to dance.

5 A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones.

A time to embrace and a time to turn away.

6 A time to search and a time to quit searching.

A time to keep and a time to throw away.

7 A time to tear and a time to mend.

A time to be quiet and a time to speak.

8 A time to love and a time to hate.

A time for war and a time for peace.

There are 28 different seasons mentioned. All of which does not appear to last forever but has a recurring opportunity.

As for me, life has served me up at least four of those seasons so far this year, and while some of them bring me an immense amount of joy, others certainly did not. “Character building moments” is what a good friend of mine described them to be.

The summer season has consistent harsh and somewhat predictable weather patterns; blue sunny sky by morning followed by extremely hot days along with afternoon storms. If I choose to set aside my complains about the heat, the heavy blanket of humidity and frightening afternoon thunderstorms, and navigate those nuisances by making small adjustments like staying hydrated, using the sunshade in my car to keep the internal temperature reduced,

walking with an umbrella or a raincoat and wearing rain boots to prevent my feet from getting soaked or just as simple as running errands earlier in the day to avoid getting caught in torrential afternoon downpours while embracing the benefit the weather has on vegetation, (and maybe my vitamin D level), then maybe, just maybe, I would have much more to be grateful for and less to complain about.

How To Handle Difficult & Unfavorable Seasons

A ‘difficult season’ may be subjective. What may be a tough time for me could easily be smooth sailing for you, and vice versa. This is where sympathy and empathy for the circumstances of others become important.

If I simply applied the facts presented by the general nature of the summer season’s influence on vegetation, it would only make sense to conclude that when navigating a challenging season of life, it is critical to not focus wholly on the discomfort of the season. Yes, the heat & mucky humidity of the summer can be unbearable, and possibly so are the long drawn out sunny days; but choosing to redirect the mindset that the kind of growth the climate of this season is able to nurture and provide makes it one to appreciate.

Sure easier said than done, but not an impossible mindset to acquire. It is simple to focus on the discomfort and misery of any given moment, but if we tried to understand the potential positive climate conditions within it, would that make it easier to endure?

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So what season are you in right now? Is it a season of singleness? Could a love for self grow out of the climate of this season? Is it grief? Could you learn to appreciate every moment with loved ones more? Is it illness? Could you learn to nurture, understand, and appreciate good health? Or is it a season of happiness and abundance? Could you learn how to extend a hand to others who may be unhappy or lacking?

Do you believe there’s any good that lies dormant in your current unfavorable season? Can you dig deep enough to discover the positive change(s) that could arise within you at the end of it’s duration?

Seasons are great when things are tranquil, serene, and effortless, but if you understand how a car is able to move from point A to point B, then embracing the bumps and friction involved in the process may make your journey – though hard – a little easier and the load a lot lighter.

I cannot control the summertime thunderstorm patterns, but I can choose to utilize the tools to navigate how I get through the weather conditions better and to remember that the temperature and other conditions of the season are the perfect conditions for many plants to flourish. Most of which we need to survive.

With that in mind and my current season at hand, the question I ask myself is; what things are needed to grow and develop within me that only this season can aid in?

I believe the best season for the growth you need right now, is the one you are currently in.

Just like the marked varied importance of all seasons of the year, so too are the seasons of your life. I implore you to zone in on the areas that need the challenging conditions to cultivate and grow from them and seek further guidance if you are struggling to discover them.

GOAL: To take full advantage of the season you are in.

Until next time friend, take care and know that you are always in my thoughts and prayers.

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 And we know that everything works together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them – Romans 8:28

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Last Updated: June 29, 2022

Looking Back


“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forward”

– Soren Kierkegaard


Happy new year friends! We made it to 2022 or as some would call it; 2020 too. I’d like to think this year will be different regardless of how similar it may have started to past years. We’re about two weeks in with a short 50 more to go. How has it been for you so far?

I still can’t believe this year marks two years since we’ve been living in a global pandemic and from the looks of it, it is not letting up anytime soon.

As I reflected on what 2021 was like for me (and even prior years), I vividly remember excessively stocking up on paper products, bottled water and canned foods. Fears of running out of essentials were at an all-time high. This was possibly a new experience for the majority of us.

Once the shelves grew bare and became decorated with the dreaded “only one per customer” sign, I began to care less and less about my personal brand preferences and arguably, slightly hoarded enough of whatever was available.

No one wants to find themselves toilette paperless in the middle of a bathroom visit; at least not me.

This desperation and depravity made me think of times when I had uninhibited access to purchasing as much or as little grocery essentials without having to worry if I was ever going to run out and not have access to these necessities when I needed them.

They say “the cow never misses it’s tail until he loses it” and I dare say many of us probably understand that saying without needing any explanation of it.

Regardless of the lack of supplies on those barren grocery isle shelves, one thing that I did notice was that no matter how they dwindled in numbers, there was always more eventually. I am beyond grateful for all those stockers who worked diligently day and night to ensure consumers, like myself, had access to groceries.

I know for many, reflecting on all that transpired during the initial and ongoing phase of the pandemic may be tough to do. Maybe goals were not met and were instead replaced with set backs. For some, it may have been the loss of income, good health, hope, property, relationships or the loss of loved ones.

My heart and prayer goes out to anyone who has been hurting greatly during these unprecedented times. Regardless of how hopeless your circumstance may seem to you, please know that weeping truly only does endure for a night. As long as you are breathing, there’s more to your story.

I know I’ve spent quite some time reflecting on pandemic woes, but if I am being completely honest, that is only a small part of the fraction of the things I’ve sat and pondered on over the past years.

I think of the people who are no longer on my journey, the harsh realizations I’ve faced with some of them, the life lessons I’ve acquired through making mindless decisions, the person I used to be and who I am today, the excessive amounts of money I’ve spent at the grocery store, how horrible I was (and slightly still am) at sticking to my budget, the habits I’ve tried to break that has won the battle over my own mental strength, and the personal and spiritual growth that came from it all.

No matter the unfavorable past mistakes, I’m grateful for all of it and for the opportunity to see a brand new year that was never promised. While I welcome you dear 2022, I’d like you to slow down for a quick second to take a moment to reflect on a few things I need to zone in on from 2021.

In Retrospect

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You’ve probably started off the year with a list of resolutions and goals that you have every intention of achieving for yourself and possibly for your family. It is nice to set new goals, to dream new dreams, and to have new visions.

NEW is exciting.

Whether it is to finally start exercising, eating healthy, reading more, saving more, paying off that nagging debt or at least knock out a good chunk of it, starting your own business, writing your first book, discovering your God given purpose, and if you’re like me, you’ll want to cut back on groceries (the inflation that is upon us is no joke).

There’s something about new beginnings that gets me inspired and pumped and most importantly, hopeful. Many times, unfortunately, those goals that were decided upon are seldom achieved. The spike in “new year, new me” adrenaline seems to taper off and by the time it gets to March (or even as early as the end of January), the urge to pursue those goals is long gone.

Think of all those resolutions you’ve set last year. How many of them have come to fruition? How many didn’t? Why not?

We want to achieve the goal but are we disciplined enough to get there? Too often also are we inclined to hastily throw out and try to forget the old year. Don’t underestimate those mistakes made in 2021 my friends! Those hurdles you’ve had to jump over could possibly be the golden tickets of insight for growth and better choices in 2022.

Here’s why I say that.

Mistakes, in my humble opinion, means you’ve stepped out of your comfort zone and tried something new. That’s commendable. That is proof that you’ve had more faith than fear. Comfort is nice, but we know there’s no growth in comfort zones.

In the midst of your mistakes, you may have made very little progress, none at all, or even have taken a few steps back. That’s ok. What matters most is that now you know what does not work and you aren’t willing to give up. That in and of itself is an accomplishment. Why? Because now you have knowledge about something that someone who never tried does not. You can tell others what worked and what didn’t.

The Rearview Mirror

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While driving, I use my rearview mirror a plethora of times. If you own and/or operate a motor vehicle, you’ll know where to locate your rearview mirror and when to use it. Incase you aren’t familiar, here’s the Importance of a rearview mirror:

Your car’s rear-view mirror serves a multitude of purposes that help keep you safe as a driver. The rear-view mirror promotes an alert driving experience by allowing you to see behind your vehicle without turning your head. By checking the rear-view mirror, you can monitor traffic and prepare for any potential dangers. It’s also helpful with parking as it gives a clear line of sight to the sides and rear of the vehicle. The rear-view mirror is a great asset when backing into a parking space, parallel parking, and exiting a parking space.

Most driving instructors suggest checking your mirrors every five to eight seconds with a glance. A glance does not mean studying the mirrors, but more along the lines of a quick check. It’s important not to stare off into your rear-view mirror as you can miss hazards in front of you. Checking your mirrors frequently gives you an adequate mental map of what’s happening on the road. From moments if there’s a vehicle about to hit you from the rear or an item falling off of a truck, mirror checking keeps you prepared.

Did you notice the emphasis from the article above to glance back quickly, when using a rearview mirror, (for the obvious safety reasons) but not to plant your eyes on the rearview mirror for too long? While looking back is important, if the car is moving forward, it would be very dangerous to keep your stare glued to what is happening behind you.

Our eyes are certainly at the front of our head for a reason.

After looking back, here are a few things I’ve realized I need to adjust this year that you may be able to relate to and how I intend on seeing them through:

  • Breaking bad habits – Identifying what triggers me to keep falling to the same temptation of the bad habit and to be disciplined enough to stare clear of the trigger. For example, if I am trying to reduce my sugar intake, the obvious decision is to not buy sweets at the grocery story. I’ll have little to no sugary options when that late night craving hits.
  • Stop overspending at the supermarket – this is such a sore area for me. When I looked at the dollar amount I’ve spent over the past year on groceries, it is safe to say I spent way too much on food. The sad thing is, some of it ends up in the trash. With the inflation that is upon us, this most certainly has to stop. How I intend to cut back is to plan ahead on meals for the week, make a grocery list based on that plan, use coupons when I have access to them, take advantage of other saving opportunities the store provides, and to never shop while hungry.
  • Aim for early, not on-time – I’ve heard the saying that if you’re on time you’re late. This is true. Aim for early as we cannot predict the journey to wherever we need to be is going to be unobstructed every day. Accidents happen, road constructions show up unannounced. If you aim for early, there’s a better chance of making it on time with these conditions.
  • Flee from procrastination. Heard the saying delay is danger? Why risk forgetting or not completing something if I remember it now and can get it done?
  • Stop overbooking my schedule – it is easy to get dragged in all directions. It can be even worst as a full-time employee and student. Prioritizing mental breaks is important. It’s great checking off the to do list but should not happen at the cost of a burnout.
  • Prioritize taking care of the temple – Get that pedicure sis! We can’t be out here with a job and a roof over our head but when someone looks at our feet they think we’re homeless. You have one body, so take very good care of it in every way possible.
  • Listen without distractions – Most people today have smart phones, in hand, and almost all the time. We live in such a multitasking era that we feel like listening while someone is speaking but needing to scroll through the phone can still be effective and then after they are done speaking we realize we don’t even know what they just said. Sometimes we miss the opportunity to be there for someone because of this.
  • Control the thoughts, don’t let the thoughts control you – This is a tough one. I know I am not the only one that needs to work on this. Being emotionally led can be detrimental because we act on feelings rather than facts. The key, in my humble opinion, is to take a moment to think through all the thoughts and to ask ourselves how many of them are true and how can we work through getting our peace back without making matters worst.

Biblical Perspective

Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old

Isaiah 43:18

Scripture presents many references that suggest the detriment of looking back at the past or better yet, staying stuck there. This is pointing to the true meaning of salvation and incase you are thinking of salvation being only a soul saving event from sin, I’d like to inform you that salvation also refers to being set free from old ways of thinking and operating. Things like breaking bad harmful self-sabotaging habits, how we steward God’s creation of self and of all the things He’s created on this earth that He has allowed us access to.

You may remember the story of Lot’s wife and how she looked back and became a pillar of salt. She appeared to not have wanted to let go of the things of old and her unwillingness to let go stripped her of a future. – Luke 17:32

If you ever get stuck in the past thinking you coulda shoulda woulda, please remember this promise:

For we know that for those that love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose – Romans 8:28

The Correct Way to Reflect on the Past

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In the one minute video below, Michael Hyatt shares his perspective on reflecting on the past. He explains his phenomenon of “completing the past” as:

“If you don’t complete the past, if you don’t deal powerfully with what happened in the last 12 months, too often we drag that into the future so that it becomes an inhibiting factor in accomplishing our most important goals.

For example, if we went through a failure or disappointment last year we might be tempted to not try in this year. And so often, people that are successful failed their way to success. And so we have to learn to deal powerfully with the past.

Michael uses 8 major questions to guide his students. One of which is:

What were your major accomplishments last year? (It’s good to rehearse those to get into a powerful frame of mind where we’re building on our success and our momentum which builds confidence and gives us a reason to set even bigger and better goals for the future.

But we also have to deal with things like disappointments or regrets or maybe there were times last year when you thought you should have been acknowledged but for whatever reason you weren’t and if you don’t get that out and just deal with it, then it’s hard to get the slate wiped clean and to develop a plan for this next year that is inhibited by what happened in the past 12 months.”

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Looking Ahead

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I’ve learned something new every single year about myself. No matter what I’ve learned about others, what I came to realize about myself mattered most because the only person I can control is myself. As I am graced with life, I try my best to take those lessons and apply them to the new year, new month, new week, or the new day. Thankfully God’s mercies are new every morning.

Not only can we be grateful for that, but no matter what you did not accomplished or failed at or wished you had done differently, know that you can be hopeful and expectant each and every day in the fact that it’s a new opportunity to do what was not done the previous day all while not having to spread your bed in the despair of your past failures.

You must be intentional about this new mindset.

I’d like to take this opportunity to wish you an unforgettable new year for all the right reasons. One filled with higher highs, good health, more joyful moments and one riddled with much laughter and little to no tears – unless of course they will be tears of joy. Be expectant for the new adventures and accomplishments on the road ahead. And don’t be afraid to fail at something new. You got this!

What goals have you’ve set out to achieve this year? How do you plan on seeing them through? I’d love to hear from you. Don’t forget to leave a comment below and subscribe for new content and announcements. Until next time, have a blessed week.

Contentment or Settling?

By Kaydene Green

Content – happy enough with what one has or is; not desiring something more or different; satisfied

Have you ever experienced perfect peace with what you had until the moment you found out there was a better version out there?

In my closet are over 29 pairs of pants, more than 80 shirts and blouses (combined), about 10 dresses, and roughly 38 pairs of shoes. At this point you may be thinking “#blessed”, but the irony of these numbers is that whenever I have an event to attend, I almost always experience a meltdown from having ‘nothing‘ to wear. This, my friends, does not include the clothes in my dresser nor the ones in the dirty laundry basket.

Please do not mistake this as bragging. That conclusion could not be any further from the truth. I only just came to terms with this statistic when I made a conscious decision to count my closet’s inventory while working on this blog to prove to myself that I may have a problem on my hands. I’m not gonna lie, the numbers surprised me.

I was very tempted to stop counting midway through my collection. How can anyone have this many clothing options and still have a hard time finding something to wear at any given time? Clearly my taste in my own fashion selections was changing faster than the seasons in the year. To make things worse, half the clothes I bought I ended up not even liking.

This is discontentment.

I could go on and on about my expertise in dissatisfaction and tell you about the other “stuff” I’ve accumulated; from hair care products to stationaries to food pantry items – because I always need to be ready for food shortage for some reason – and I dare not mention the many unread books that have only been collecting dust on the bookshelf.

Some of these excess items have possibly been expired for months now but with all the other unused stuff in the way, who would be able to keep up with these important details?

I’ll get this for later“, is something I’d tell myself ALL the time because I’ve become so good at dissatisfaction that I just know I will be needing something different not long after that initial purchase. Don’t get me wrong, some of the things I’ve gotten when I didn’t need them did come in handy – eventually – but many never did.

“So why did you buy so many clothes and things that you ended up not using Kaydene?”

Well I thought you’d never ask.

Short answer is, shortly after I made a purchase, I either realized quickly that the item(s) do not bring me the maximum satisfaction I expected or I found out that there is a newer version out and so help me God, I just had to have it. But then I thought to myself, why would I have made a mediocre purchase decision to begin with? Are my impulsive purchases and inability to say no to something I do not need or to keep up with the latest trends lending a hand in my world of discontentment?

We live in such a consumerist culture where minimalism is NOT encouraged. This is possibly a very new term to you. It’s the practice of living on and with the bare minimum. It’s having only the things you need and nothing extra. But silly me, why would this be encouraged?

I think I can speak for many of us when I say we love to have extra because having options is great. Product sales dictate the value of a company which means we continue to consume in excess and half the time we are only left with heaps of things that we never get to use. We are left to either hoard them, sell them or donate them and if we’re going to be honest, most times they end up in the garbage.

This mentality has permeated into more personal matters like becoming discontented with who I am or with the people in my life, or with my income, or how course my edges are without edge control, or how some guy’s eye lashes are way longer and thicker and fuller than mine and before you know it, the result is a long list of insecurities because I’ve somehow deducted that I do not measure up to someone else’s version of “better” or “best”.

What human has the authority to dictate what a perfect human being is suppose to look like anyway? We’ll leave that discussion for another time.

President Theodore Roosevelt was certainly onto something when he said, “comparison is the thief of joy”. I started to see how the comparison mindset and all it’s discontenting by-products was going to lead me down a slippery slope of eternal misery. So I decided it was time to unsubscribe from comparison and to stop looking at the empty half of the glass.

My ‘aha’ moment was when I got tired of spending, so I decided to become contented with exercising contentment

Settling For Less

For many people, contentment is unattainable. To them, it is the equivalent of settling for less. Why accept and older version of anything when you can have the new upgraded model? Why settle for this low wage career when you can go back to school and give yourself a chance to earn more?

Is it contradictory to say I live a contented life while pursuing a higher education in hopes of a higher wage or a new more fulfilling and purposeful career?

Have you ever seen the movie The Pursuit of Happiness” starring Will and Jaden Smith? As you may (or may not) know, it is based on a true story and is the epitome of human resilience and how pursuing a better life propelled one man and his son into a future of higher purpose and abundance. Had he settled for his current situation, He’d probably not become the success story and encouragement he is today.

I don’t know that I could have been contented with living like a stray animal myself, but even in the rut, it could be argued that there was some bits of contentment.

I thought long and hard about how to be contented while pursuing more. Based on the definition given, it appears that it is impossible to be contented while aspiring for more. I could not disagree more. I’m convinced it comes down to the question of why?.

So I asked myself, what is my motive for wanting more? This is not an easy one to answer because there are so many little moving parts that would determine why we do what we do. From my experience, settling for less and thinking that there is nothing better in-store or that I have to have it now, has led to more of my discontentment than not settling ever did. The right approach to contentment, I’ve deducted, is hoping and actually waiting for the best that our creator has for us, while embracing and celebrating in ALL the things (and people) we do have now.

I am an advocate for continued growth in all areas of life within the reason of becoming a better version of myself and not with the intention of impressing others and I do feel as though the moment we stop learning is the moment we stop growing. If my intention is to keep up with the accomplishments of others, I’m as good as living with discontentment for the rest of my life.

A Story of Discontentment

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My friend E.D. was beaming with excitement when she found out about her acceptance into the law program from one of the schools she had applied to a few months ago. Her radiant aura and immense sense of happiness had quickly engulf my own reality and I soon found myself thrilled all because of how much she was.

I know a thing or two about breathing a sigh of relief with getting an acceptance letter and feeling like life was finally starting to head in the direction I long hope it would.

She’d been anxious for weeks, possibly months, about her applications and so I felt genuine happiness for her when she shared the exciting news with me. Immediately I became eager to plan a celebration dinner. It was a great day in my book and I would think in hers as well. She finally realized that her potential was not going unnoticed.

By the next day, E.D. was not nearly as thrilled as she was the day before. She told me that she submitted a new application to a different school. I was a bit confused by this, so I asked her what had happened to the prior acceptance?

She brought to my attention that she had spent some time the prior evening, doing detailed research on the accepting school, (almost like going to WebMD to self diagnose), and realized based on the reviews that this may not be the best option for her.

While I can absolutely relate to this kind of discontentment, I was still amazed at how her excitement withered within a few hours all because the reviews were quite disapproving. The interesting part was that she had moved from being contented with getting no acceptance at all, to becoming obsessed with wanting to have a better option of school to attend. When I asked her why was she not contented anymore, E.D. said that for the money she was about to spend in tuition, she needed to make her journey well worth it.

I get it, contentment can come with a price tag and law school is a major investment.

Learning Contentment the Hard Way – My Uncle’s Story

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If there is anyone I know who lives and breaths contentment, it is my uncle.

He had just signed off from duty after many months at sea working as a chef on one of the largest cruise ships known to many. What was to be only a few months off from work turned into almost a few years. He was neither financially nor mentally prepared for this extended amount of time from work.

The hospitality industry had taken a hard hit during the covid-19 pandemic and there was nothing he could have done in his power to adjust that reality. It was such a major setback and something he wished he had seen coming. He shared many struggles he faced physically, mentally and spiritually, day and night. It was a tough time. His livelihood was swept from under his feet.

Many of the ill feelings he felt went unnoticed by many who had interacted with him because of how he handled the situation, with much contentment knowing that there are some things that are just out of his control.

When I asked him how could he have possibly practiced contentment in such a tough season, he expressed that for him it was a spiritual process. He could not have gone through what he did on his own strength. He believed it was a breaking process for him to teach him many important life lessons as well as to put all his trust in God, the only one who had seen this coming and had already worked out the provisions for him and his family.

My uncle said that he was reminded of the story of Job (as I had mentioned a few blog posts ago), and how when we are stripped of everything, we are faced with the inevitable decision of either choosing to be miserable or to practice contentment. What I also admired about his story is that his family, (wife and daughter), are faithful and loyal through the entire process. They all learned, alongside him, how to be contented in a season of lack. While they wished things had played out differently, they found comfort in trusting that God would never turn His back on their distress.

From E.D.’s and my uncle’s story and even that of my own, I realized that contentment is best achieved through intentionality and or through the harsh reality of the inability to acquire that which is out of one’s control.

So I’ve deducted there are two types of contentment:

  1. Inevitable contentment – the one where you have no other choice but to satisfy with what you have and where you are in life because you do not have the means to acquire more. It is also looking in the mirror and acknowledging that you had no control over your genetic make up and you are perfect just the way you are.
  2. Practiced/Intentional contentment – the one where you realize that you can no longer keep up with the Jones‘ or keeping up with them is only going to put you in a financial rut and knowing that what you have is good enough until you can responsibly, and within good reason, acquire more.

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How to Practice Contentment

“Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, but the realization of how much you already have”

– Anaymous

There are two practical ways you can start practicing contentment:

  1. Do not compare. If what you have works and serves you well, it is all that you need. My cellphone may be 3 years old and my friend may have gotten the latest and greatest version, but mine still works and that is enough reason for me to not replace it. Until it stops working, I will remain contented with it.
  2. Be grateful for what you have in this very moment and season. An attitude of gratitude can go much further than we realize.

I know, easier said than done. Contentment to me is intentional and I’ve found it will take much effort on my part.

Advice From Rachel Cruze

While listening to chapter 9 of Rachel Cruze’s audio book, “Know Yourself Know Your Money“, I received a few guidelines on how to really practice contentment. Here’s what she had to say:

“Contentment is a process that changes your motivation for spending money. How? By changing what you value. Instead of valuing the acquisition of more stuff, you value other things more. It starts with gratitude, which develops into humility and over time grows into contentment. Contentment is the opposite of spending money because of other people. It’s about being satisfied with your life right where God has you versus feeling like you have to keep up. It’s about having peace in your heart for the season of life you are in and knowing your life is meant for something meaningful. Instead of chasing after the next new shiny thing, contentment changes your heart to be satisfied with what you already have.

Start with an attitude of gratitude – start your day by writing down (or even thinking about) 3 things you are grateful for. Not just the big things but the small things as well like writing with your favorite pen or drinking your favorite cup of coffee.

Being contented does not mean you are aimless, a doormat or lazy.

Being content has more to do with your “why”. Living life on your terms not with what you have. You can be content with a little and you could be contented with alot.” – Rachel Cruze

Biblical Perspective on Contentment

Enjoy what you have rather than desiring what you don’t have. Just dreaming about nice things is meaningless-like chasing the wind.

Ecclesiastes 6:9

“Yet true godliness with contentment is itself great wealth (gain). After all, we brought nothing with us when we came into the world, and we can’t take anything with us when we leave it.”

1 Timothy 6:6-7

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Practicing Contentment during the Holiday Season

The Holidays is one of the best but possibly the hardest times to practice contentment. If you received nothing for Christmas would you still be happy? Could you still have joy if you were overlooked? The holidays can be a very triggering time of year for many as their lacks become emphasized.

For Christians, the real gift of the season was salvation embodied in human form and a new way of living life. No longer do we have to be enslaved to our past mistakes and for many, this is enough of a gift. No monetary or material possessions will ever be able to measure up.

Joyce Meyer puts it this way, “enjoy where you are on your way to where you are going“. Joyce, I could not agree more. I definitely won’t sit and do life without aiming for something greater, or better or even God’s best for me, but if my idea of what this looks like never happens, then let it be known that I will be contented knowing that if it was meant to happen any other way, it would have.

Have you had to practice contentment? How was it a struggle for you? How has your life been different since you’ve learned contentment? Share your thoughts in the comment section below. Don’t forget to subscribe for new content as soon as they are released. Until next time, have a blessed week and a very Merry Christmas.

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Last Updated: December 29, 2021

Remember Why You Started

By Kaydene Green


Hey you! yes… you. The one who has launched out into a new adventure filled with optimism for a future drenched in passion for living on purpose. The one who wants to rewrite history, creating new traditions, breaking generational strongholds and releasing yourself from the shackles of past mistakes.

It is you that I am talking to.

The one who realizes that this new journey is easily as scary as it is exciting and who has heard that “if your dreams don’t scare you they aren’t big enough“. The one who stepped out of your comfort zone to seek out something greater than that of yourself to tread the path that leads to places you’ve never been before, doing things you’ve never done with talents you did not even know you possessed.

Is it you that I am talking to?

May I take a few minutes of your time to give you some words of encouragement? I know, you may feel alone, unclear and doubtful and words may never be good enough. The journey to fulfilling calling and reaching new milestones can be a scary one, but many have trod this route before and are living to tell the tale.

Too often, all we see are the glorified triumphs, the ripened fruits weighing heavy on fragile looking yet sturdy branches and the perfectly patterned fluttering butterflies who were possibly still only just a caterpillar yesterday.

But what about the parts before the triumphant endings? What about the tears, the fears, the sleepless nights, the heartbreaks, and the discomfort that seems like a lifelong companion along the journey? Can we find comfort in the dark places? Can we reflect and ponder and feel every bit of it and speak life and light into the uncomfortable places?

Can we talk about the struggles you may or have been facing on this new journey?

The Obstacles

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Whether it is a new years resolution of going to the gym consistently, saving money, purchasing a new home or writing a book, starting could be argued as much easier to do than bringing the project to completion. As 2022 fast approaches, so are the long lists of resolutions. Seldom do we plan the survival strategies for the bumps ahead that will make every attempt to throw us off course.

Let’s dive into some of the obstacles you may face on your newly sought after journey and what to remember while you are experiencing them:

1. The lack of support and encouragement

You may come to a harsh realization that not everyone will find interest in your new pursuits and many of them will be people you thought cared about you. They probably do but not in the way you expect them to. You may even find yourself begging for the kind of support you expected should have been given freely. You will find that your only option to keep you moving, is to become your own cheerleader. If you are a Christian, please do not forget that the Holy Spirit is with you to help you in ALL you do. There is no greater cheerleader and support than that.

2. Realizing who is NOT in your corner

The lack of feedback will be your guide for this one. People may even start acting differently around you and towards you. If this is the case, we can’t even begin to image what they are probably saying behind our backs. It is some of the people you hoped you could rely on that probably will not be in your corner and it may be the people who you least expect that will appreciate what you are doing. This is where you will understand the concept of knowing who your tribe is. Still be as graceful and as forgiving as you possibly can, no matter what your emotions tell you what to do.

3. Lack of vision

Some days you will struggle to know what your next move is. You may find yourself asking the question “what do I do next?” more often than not. You may even end up being stuck here for awhile.

Ever heard the quote about not seeing the whole stairway before taking the steps? This is not quite the thing for control freaks, but I do believe some things are out of our control and for those things, I rely on God who already knows what the future holds. Someone asked me once, “how do you come up with the topics for your blog?” in which I responded, “I just think of what I am struggling with in the moment and ask God what does He want me to learn in the midst of this storm and the rest is history.”

4. Self doubt

You may feel like you are terrible at this new task. Give yourself some grace and adjust your self-talk to speaking life and positivity. Remember, you have to become your own cheerleader. With experience you will become proficient and better with each new day. Remember, we learn to walk before we are ever able to run.

5. Fear

When I had reached about 9 months in the transition of my natural hair journey, I was ready to do the “big chop”. It was scary to think that I was not going to be able to put my hair in a ponytail for the first time in my life. I was filled with fear and it was only just hair. I was once told “the only thing to fear is fear itself.” Fear is crippling. Fear is not from our all powerful creator so it is important not to entertain it. By His power we can live boldly and in the confidence that He has created us for good works and even if it is not exactly what we had set out to pursue, He will guide us in the direction He wants us to go. Also, do not live in the fear that others have right you off from being qualified for this. People will remember your mistakes and try to keep your capabilities hostage to your past. Let them. You cannot control what they do, but you can control where you maintain your gaze. Keep pressing ahead.

6. Lack of Motivation

Self-governance does not seem important until it needs to be. It is already bad enough that the area of encouragement is low. You will have to dig deep on most days to find the strength and couragement to continue. Remembering why you started will help you with this one. Take a mental break if you need to.

My friend John says, “When you find yourself up against an obstacle, keep pushing and use it as an experience to learn and grow.

7.Discouragement

People will make an attempt to tell you why what you are aiming for is useless. Let them. Tell them you appreciate the feedback and continue on your journey. Not everyone will understanding your calling because it is not theirs to understand. It is yours to stay faithful to. Keep pressing.

8. Success Does Not Happen Overnight

This is major. Please remember this when nothing seems to be happening. Don’t lose hope. Persistence is key. That was one of the best advices I ever received.

Dennis (a fitness advocate and friend) says, “To build muscle, you need resistance. Muscles are built when they are stretched, torn and healed.”


Know Your Why

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At the beginning of any new journey you must keep at the forefront of your mind why you started. Many companies have vision statement(s) painted mostly at the employee entrance for a reason. Many people may be motivated mainly about paying the bills, but to feel like you are apart of something greater may could increase to vigor to give it your all no matter how difficult the task may be.

“Make your vision so clear that your fears become irrelevant”

– Kerwin Rae

As for me, starting a blog and posting it to social media was nerve wracking. Left up to me, I would have kept it in the dark. But I had to remember why I started:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in ALL you do, and He will show you which path to take”

Proverbs 3: 5-6

A Bit of Motivation – Why you started

I hope you find this video as motivating as I have. Go ahead, take the first step to doing something new. You do not have to have it all figured out now and you do not have to be great at it from the very start. If it does not take you to where you thought it would, it will still take you somewhere, in a different spot than the one you are standing in right now. Be encouraged until next time. Have a blessed week.

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Last Updated: December 10, 2021

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